Admit It and Save Your Life

Admit It and Save Your Life

As children, many of us were shamed or condemned for being wrong or not knowing. With that shame, a wound forms, usually a core wound. As adults, we carry that shame when we are wrong. If we are afraid to feel that shame, we may try to never be wrong. More often,  we...
Trauma and the Emotional Muscle of Honesty

Trauma and the Emotional Muscle of Honesty

Honesty is a muscle we have to exercise, or we lose it. It takes work to be honest because many factors work against honesty as a default response. Being honest especially requires emotional resilience, because what’s true is often not easy to stomach. In this...
Tai Chi (Chuan) for Sanity and Longevity

Tai Chi (Chuan) for Sanity and Longevity

Each morning I practice tai chi chuan (“tai chi” exercise), I first engage some qi gong warm-ups. Then, before practice, I do the salutation to the form. The salutation itself is beautiful and meaningful, as one fist joins an open palm (Yang within Yin) and they...
What Tylenol Teaches Us About Trauma

What Tylenol Teaches Us About Trauma

An excerpt from my new book, The Deep Work: Psychology professor and researcher, Dr. Alan Fogel, shares that “over the course of evolution, our bodies decided to take the economic route and use a single neural system to detect and feel pain, regardless of whether it...