While this may ward off feeling that ancient, gut-wrenching shame or worthlessness, the results of this in adulthood are devastating.
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Blog Articles
Trauma and the Emotional Muscle of Honesty
Honesty is a muscle we have to exercise, or we lose it. It takes work to be honest because many factors work against...
Tai Chi (Chuan) for Sanity and Longevity
Each morning I practice tai chi chuan (“tai chi” exercise), I first engage some qi gong warm-ups. Then, before...
What Tylenol Teaches Us About Trauma
An excerpt from my new book, The Deep Work: Psychology professor and researcher, Dr. Alan Fogel, shares that “over the...
Empathy and Allopathy: How a Fix-it Culture Creates and Perpetuates Emotional Trauma
We live in a toxically fix-it culture. By which I mean we try to fix everything, which ironically and tragically,...
The Tragic Irony of Shadow Projection
Irony Shadow projection Blind spots Accusation as confession Hypocrisy All five are synonymous dynamics. They all...
A Heart-Mind Compass for Troubling Times
Learning to discern what is true is crucial for our times. I like to call relatively certain, carefully vetted truth,...
On Taking Things Personally
When I was in the depths of my shadow and core wound work many years ago, I took the message of this meme to an...
Grief Work: Essential Wisdom
When I work with people who need help dealing with unprocessed loss, I virtually never try to "get them to grieve."...
Sacred Hatred: Emotional Intelligence for the Taboo
Like fear, hate is considered bad and taboo, especially in New Age circles. Yet, both fear and hate are crucial,...
Being Transformed
We don’t "transform" emotional pain. Rather, we are transformed "by" it. It’s not a mechanical process; it’s an...
Needs and Neediness
There are needs . . . and there is neediness. Everyone needs connection with others. But when unmet childhood needs...
Feeling Tired?
There are many reasons for feeling tired. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you. Mainstream culture...
The Problem and Promise of Oneness
One of the pitfalls with "oneness" or that "we are all one" is that we forget about and ignore our differences and...