The Well of Grief

The Well of Grief

I have come to understand grief through the metaphor of water and the well. Current events can catalyze fresh new grief, as well as unresolved grief, what we carry in a deeper reservoir of sadness. This means that today we may be grieving not only for the present but...
Tribalism: Boon and Bane

Tribalism: Boon and Bane

Tribalism is a boon and also a bane. It leads to dangerous group-think, dishonesty, and violence. But tribalism also serves a crucial purpose. It’s part of our genetic survival heritage because we can’t survive or thrive outside of a group. This way,...
Embodied Love vs. New Age Love

Embodied Love vs. New Age Love

Love has many meanings and references. It’s both biology and poetry, ethereal and grounded. But it’s important to understand that embodied love isn’t just plucked out of the sky. It’s learned, cultivated, and passed along, from one body-mind and heart to another....
The Somatic Pivot

The Somatic Pivot

A common notion is that spiritual practice is at odds with emotional work. It certainly can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Yoga and meditation, for example, are invaluable for body-centered psychotherapy because they confer body awareness, practice in focus, increased...
Abandonment Fear in Relationship

Abandonment Fear in Relationship

It’s normal to be triggered by the threat of being left, even when we’ve done the inner grief and anger work from past neglect. The trick is not knee-jerk reacting to the trigger Harboring an abandonment wound, especially when it’s unreckoned and unintegrated, can...