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Blog Articles
On Taking Things Personally
When I was in the depths of my shadow and core wound work many years ago, I took the message of this meme to an...
Grief Work: Essential Wisdom
When I work with people who need help dealing with unprocessed loss, I virtually never try to "get them to grieve."...
Sacred Hatred: Emotional Intelligence for the Taboo
Like fear, hate is considered bad and taboo, especially in New Age circles. Yet, both fear and hate are crucial,...
Being Transformed
We don’t "transform" emotional pain. Rather, we are transformed "by" it. It’s not a mechanical process; it’s an...
Needs and Neediness
There are needs . . . and there is neediness. Everyone needs connection with others. But when unmet childhood needs...
Feeling Tired?
There are many reasons for feeling tired. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you. Mainstream culture...
The Problem and Promise of Oneness
One of the pitfalls with "oneness" or that "we are all one" is that we forget about and ignore our differences and...
The Beautiful Pain of Honesty
Here’s the thing about inner work: in order to heal, you have to be brutally honest with yourself. You have to follow...
The Well of Grief
I have come to understand grief through the metaphor of water and the well. Current events can catalyze fresh new...
Tribalism: Boon and Bane
Tribalism is a boon and also a bane. It leads to dangerous group-think, dishonesty, and violence. But tribalism also...
Embodied Love vs. New Age Love
Love has many meanings and references. It’s both biology and poetry, ethereal and grounded. But it’s important to...
The Somatic Pivot
A common notion is that spiritual practice is at odds with emotional work. It certainly can be, but it doesn’t have to...
Abandonment Fear in Relationship
It’s normal to be triggered by the threat of being left, even when we’ve done the inner grief and anger work from past...