We live in a toxically fix-it culture. By which I mean we try to fix everything, which ironically and tragically,...
Empathy and Allopathy: How a Fix-it Culture Creates and Perpetuates Emotional Trauma
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Blog Articles
The Tragic Irony of Shadow Projection
Irony Shadow projection Blind spots Accusation as confession Hypocrisy All five are synonymous dynamics. They all...
A Heart-Mind Compass for Troubling Times
Learning to discern what is true is crucial for our times. I like to call relatively certain, carefully vetted truth,...
On Taking Things Personally
When I was in the depths of my shadow and core wound work many years ago, I took the message of this meme to an...
Grief Work: Essential Wisdom
When I work with people who need help dealing with unprocessed loss, I virtually never try to "get them to grieve."...
Sacred Hatred: Emotional Intelligence for the Taboo
Like fear, hate is considered bad and taboo, especially in New Age circles. Yet, both fear and hate are crucial,...
Being Transformed
We don’t "transform" emotional pain. Rather, we are transformed "by" it. It’s not a mechanical process; it’s an...
Needs and Neediness
There are needs . . . and there is neediness. Everyone needs connection with others. But when unmet childhood needs...
Feeling Tired?
There are many reasons for feeling tired. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you. Mainstream culture...
The Problem and Promise of Oneness
One of the pitfalls with "oneness" or that "we are all one" is that we forget about and ignore our differences and...
The Beautiful Pain of Honesty
Here’s the thing about inner work: in order to heal, you have to be brutally honest with yourself. You have to follow...
The Well of Grief
I have come to understand grief through the metaphor of water and the well. Current events can catalyze fresh new...
Tribalism: Boon and Bane
Tribalism is a boon and also a bane. It leads to dangerous group-think, dishonesty, and violence. But tribalism also...
Embodied Love vs. New Age Love
Love has many meanings and references. It’s both biology and poetry, ethereal and grounded. But it’s important to...