Blog Articles

Needs and Neediness

There are needs . . . and there is neediness. Everyone needs connection with others. But when unmet childhood needs spill into adult relating, neediness arises. It has a different flavor than adult need fulfillment. To me it feels like excessive clinginess to the...
THE CHALLENGE OF BEING LOVED

THE CHALLENGE OF BEING LOVED

Our traumatized programming keeps us well clear of those who can genuinely love us. We walk around in a tunnel vision we don’t even know we’re in.

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Pulling the Shame Card

Pulling the Shame Card

Of course, it's usually unhelpful and abusive to call people names, curse at them, and engage substance-less emotional...

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Creativity as Lover

Creativity as Lover

Without my artistic passion, I’d be a less happy guy. But being an artist isn’t just a source of joy; it’s...

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